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All 96 questions.
- What am I actually good at?What am I unusually good at, and what is the evidence?2
- What this part of my life is aboutWhat would I keep doing anyway?1
- Build your storyWhat is the thread through chapters that look unrelated?1
- What do you want to be known for?What box am I in, and what can I claim?1
- What do you actually want?What do I say I want versus how I live?1
- What should I actually do?What am I really deciding?12
- How am I showing up?Who gets the best of me, and who gets what is left?9
- What does money mean to me?What am I asking money to do, and what is enough?7
- Your principlesWhat do I steer by when it costs me something?6
- What am I responsible for?What am I actually responsible for, and what am I carrying that was never really mine?6
- What stage am I in?What does this part of my life require now?7
- What does not need fixing?What if this part of my life is already good?4
- Where does my attention actually go?What does the way I spend my attention say about the life I am living?4
- Who am I when nobody is watchingWhat remains when there is nobody to notice, approve or expect anything?5
- What has more control over me than I would likeWhat repeatedly changes what I do, whether I intended it or not?6
- What am I avoidingWhat have I known for months and not acted on?5
- Your confidence auditIs this competence, or is this fear?5
- What am I not allowing myself to wantWhose permission am I waiting for?5
- My digital selfWhat exists about me, and is it true?5
- The year, reviewedWhat actually happened, and what am I carrying forward?5
- What do I believeWhat do I hold true? Where did it come from?3
- Does my life match what I believeWhere is the distance between belief and conduct?4
- What is bigger than meWhat do I locate myself inside?3
- What am I doubtingWhat has changed in what I believe? What follows from that?6
- Who benefits from my life besides meWhat is my contribution, honestly measured?5
- Is there something I need to apologise forWhat have I done that I have not repaired?3
- Something I am carryingWhat am I holding that I need help putting down?6
- What do I owe strangersWhat responsibility do I have beyond the people I know?7
- The conversation I keep not havingWhat do I need to say? What am I afraid of?5
- BoundariesWhere am I saying yes and meaning no?3
- What kind of partner am IHow does the person closest to me experience me?5
- Is this relationship workingWhat is actually wrong? Is it mine to fix?5
- Who is actually in my lifeWho would notice if I disappeared for a week?3
- Am I lonelyAm I under-connected, or under-known?4
- Rebuilding a circleHow do adults make friends again?4
- Where do I belongWhich rooms am I genuinely part of?3
- What does my family need from meWhat do I reasonably owe? What am I refusing?3
- Family patternsWhat am I repeating that I never chose?4
- The parent I intend to beWhat am I actually passing on?4
- Caring for an ageing parentWhat is required, what is sustainable and who else must help?6
- Roles are changingWhat happens when the child becomes the carer?6
- EstrangementDo I want contact? On what terms?5
- Should I leaveIs the problem the job, the role, the people or me?5
- CV stress testHow does a sceptical reader read this?7
- Is this just a job?Does this work need to mean more than it does?6
- What is this job actually costing meWhat am I paying in health, time and relationships?5
- What kind of work fits me nowHas the right work changed, even if the job has not?7
- Returning to workWhat do I bring back, and what has changed?8
- Made redundantWhat now, in the right order?11
- Am I a good managerWhat is it like to be managed by me?5
- Should I start somethingDo I want the business, or the escape?5
- Is this idea realDoes anybody actually want this?5
- Where does the value come fromWhich part of this model is doing the work?4
- Who do you need around youWho are the first ten people?5
- Does anybody else careIs this a mission, or a preference?5
- Under financial pressureWhat can I actually control this month?6
- Money and timeWhat am I trading, and at what rate?2
- Now that there is moneyWhat is it for, now that it is not for survival?2
- GenerosityWhere does my money go beyond me and mine?2
- Can my body sustain this lifeAm I building something my health can carry?5
- Energy, sleep and recoveryAre you recovering from the life you're living, or simply getting through it?4
- AgeingWhat is actually changing as you get older? What are you simply assuming will?6
- What makes me feel aliveWhen do you feel completely in your life rather than merely moving through it?1
- RestWhat actually leaves you feeling restored?4
- What am I still curious aboutWhat still makes you want to know more?3
- What can I change and what must I carryWhich of this is mine to solve?5
- Failure, examinedWhat actually happened, and what did I contribute?3
- GriefWhat are you carrying, and what does it need?6
- What changes when time is finiteWhat matters enough not to postpone?1
- Starting againWhat survives from the old life, and what does not?1
- Leaving educationWhat do you do when the structure you've known ends, and nobody hands you a new timetable?3
- Building a life away from homeHow do you make somewhere new feel like your life, and not just somewhere you're living for now?1
- Where should I liveWhat kind of place actually fits the life you want to live?1
- What replaces workWhen work stops organising the week, what takes its place?3
- The future I am preparing forWhat future are you quietly organising your life around?3
- What do I want to leave behindWhat do you want to leave behind, and how much of it can start now?2
- Am I happyAm I happy, or is my life simply working?1
- What am I afraid ofWhat am I afraid of, and what is it quietly costing me?1
- Do I trust myselfDo I trust my own judgement, and does the record support it?1
- What do I actually need right nowWhat do I actually need right now, and how much of it is actually up to me?1
- Am I being honest with myselfWhere does the account I give of my life round up?1
- What are we actually arguing aboutWhat is this argument actually about, underneath the version we keep having?1
- Are we asking for different thingsAre we asking for different things, or asking for the same thing differently?1
- Can this be repairedCan this be repaired, and what would repair actually require?1
- How do I help without taking overHow do I help this person without quietly taking over their life?1
- I'm worried about someoneI'm worried about someone. What have I actually seen, and what is mine to do?Read
- After trust has been brokenTrust has been broken. What was actually broken, and what do I need now?1
- I broke the trustI broke the trust. Can it be rebuilt?1
- The damage I causedI caused damage. What can I actually repair?1
- Why I keep doing itI keep doing the same harmful thing. What actually interrupts it?1
- What does success mean to me?What do I currently count as evidence that I am doing well? What do I believe it proves?1
- What did I inherit without choosing?Which rules, expectations and definitions arrived before I had a say?1
- What am I protecting?What am I protecting by keeping this part of my life as it is?1
- What have I made unthinkable?Which option have I excluded without ever examining it?1
- Whose definition am I using?Whose definition of this am I working to, and would I write the same one now?1
- What does being there for my family mean?What does being there for my family actually mean, and is it the version I would choose?1