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Everything worth your time on the question: Which of this is mine to solve?
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Three columns for a situation that will not resolve neatly.
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Steven Hayes, Kirk Strosahl and Kelly Wilson
The clinical case for describing what living alongside something actually involves, rather than using acceptance as a word that ends a conversation. Read it for the practical framing, not for the language.
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Richard Lazarus and Susan Folkman
The origin of the distinction between tackling a problem and managing the response to it. The argument is that the right choice depends on whether the situation can actually be changed, which is exactly the judgement most people skip.
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Fred Rothbaum, John Weisz and Samuel Snyder
The paper that separates changing a situation from adjusting to it, and treats both as forms of control rather than treating the second as defeat. Useful when the honest answer is that something will not move for now.
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