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Everything worth your time on the question: How am I showing up?
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Oliver Burkeman
Read this if your problem isn't knowing what matters. Your problem is trying to make everything matter at once.
The title comes from a simple observation. An average human life is surprisingly short when expressed in weeks. Burkeman challenges the idea that becoming more productive will eventually create enough time for everything. It won't.
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Robert Waldinger & Marc Schulz
If achievement has gradually pushed relationships towards the edges of your life, this is a useful place to reconsider what deserves to be near the centre.
The Harvard Study of Adult Development has followed lives across decades. One of its clearest lessons is that the quality of our relationships matters enormously to how our lives unfold.
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Vivek Murthy
Particularly useful if the exercise reveals that you've become socially busy but personally disconnected.
Loneliness isn't always about physically being alone. People can be surrounded by colleagues, family or social activity and still lack relationships in which they feel genuinely known.
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Greg McKeown
Useful when too many commitments are competing for limited attention.
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Nedra Glover Tawwab
Practical thinking for relationships that need clearer limits rather than simply more effort.
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Priya Parker
How to create more meaningful time with other people rather than simply more social activity.
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John Gottman
Relevant when the exercise identifies a partner relationship as an area you want to work on.
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Robert Waldinger
A short introduction to what decades of longitudinal research can teach us about relationships.
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Laura Carstensen
Why the relationships and goals we prioritise change as our sense of time changes. The finding worth having is that this tracks how much time a person believes is left rather than how old they are, which is why a shortened horizon at thirty produces the same narrowing as one at seventy.
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