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Rebuild My Circle

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Three plausible moves, not a social strategy.

Turns wanting more people into three specific, small, plausible moves.

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How Many Friends Does One Person Need?

Robin Dunbar

Dunbar's layered circles explain why the number of people you can genuinely keep up with is small, and why guilt about the rest is misplaced.

How Many Hours Does It Take to Make a Friend?

Jeffrey Hall

Hall put numbers on friendship: roughly fifty hours to a casual friend, considerably more to a close one. It explains why adult friendship feels hard rather than impossible.

The Strength of Weak Ties

Mark Granovetter

Granovetter's paper is the reason acquaintances matter more than they feel like they should. Useful when a life looks thin but is actually broad and shallow.

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