Am I building something my health can carry?

A guided 18 to 22 minutes conversation, here in TAIU. This exercise is not medical and does not hand out wellness advice. It looks at your actual week and reaches a plain conclusion.

GUIDES

You have named it. Now spend some time on it.

Each Guide gives you a clear way to look at one subject in your own time. Choose where to begin. You do not need to work through everything.

The evidence

What your body has been telling you

Look honestly at what your body has been doing over the last year.

Where this often ends up: A plain account of how your health is actually holding up.

It may also end with a clearer view of something, or with nothing that needs doing.

Around twenty minutes

The structure

Which part of the life is doing it

Find the part of how you live that your health is currently paying for.

Where this often ends up: The part of your life that costs you most, named plainly.

It may also end with a clearer view of something, or with nothing that needs doing.

Around thirty minutes

Not a regime

One structural change

Look for one change to how life is arranged, rather than a plan you will abandon.

It may also end with a clearer view of something, or with nothing that needs doing.

Around twenty minutes

This Guide is free, like everything else in The Clearing.

You can see what it covers before you begin.

Start this Guide

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What was supposed to end this, and when?

If the answer is a sentence rather than a date, you have probably said it before.

Recurrence is the evidence. Tiredness on a Tuesday is not.

What you'll look at

01The actual week
02Real recovery
03What recurs
04When it started

A note from Mark

I would not ask how tired you are. Everybody is tired and it tells you nothing. I would ask what recurs, because recurrence is the only honest signal in this territory.

Then the end date. Almost every demanding period is described as a phase. The real ones have a date, a condition or an event attached. The others have a sentence attached, usually after this quarter or once this project lands. That sentence has been said several times already.

I would also be careful about who chose this. Take a person doing two jobs because the rent demands it. That is not the same mistake as somebody who could stop and does not want to. The advice that fits one is insulting to the other. Most writing about this subject cannot tell the difference.

Read my full view ↓

And if something physical keeps happening, that is for a doctor. Not for me, and not for a conversation like this one. Get it looked at, and then come back to what the week is doing to you.

What you'll get

This will not sort you into a personality type.It will give you answers about your own life that you can test.

01
The real week
02
Actual recovery
03
What recurs
04
Temporary or structural
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Your TAIU handover: a summary of what the conversation found, written so you can take it with you.

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01What you came here with
02What the week actually looks like
03What your body is being asked to do
04What recovery actually exists
05What recurs
06Temporary or structural
07What the evidence suggests
08The rival reading
09What deserves protecting
10Where this stops
11What remains unresolved
12Where this goes next

When you finish

Bring it back to your tree.

Your tree is where TAIU keeps a picture of your whole life, in parts like work, money and health.

At the end, the conversation asks how Health feels for you right now, in your own words. It also asks what, if anything, would feel different. Nothing changes on your tree unless you say it changes.

The conversation writes this summary for you. Keep the sheet, print it or paste it into My Tree. Nothing from the conversation is stored by TAIU.

Session
Date
The part of life this belongs to
How you described it
What would feel different
What we found
The alternative we tested
What deserves protecting
What should change, if anything
Next actions
What to notice or find out
What remains unresolved

Open My Tree

What now?

01 · Save it
What your body is actually being asked to do.
02 · Test it
Write down the actual week for seven days, without improving it.

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What I would do

01
Describe the real week. The intended one is not evidence.
02
Look at what recurs rather than at how tired you feel today.
03
Find out whether the end date is real or a story.
04
Take anything physical to a GP rather than to a conversation.
05
Change one structural thing, not ten habits.

Test it

01
When did you last genuinely recover?
02
What keeps coming back?
03
What was supposed to end this, and when?

The alternative

The expected conclusion is that you are doing too much. Two alternatives usually produce more. A demanding period can be intentional, bounded and entirely sustainable, and occasional tiredness proves nothing, so the honest finding may be that this is fine. Or the reverse, and more uncomfortable: repeatedly promising yourself recovery later while maintaining permanent intensity is itself the evidence, and it tends to be visible to everybody except the person doing it.

Think about this

What your actual week looks like, not the intended one.
When you last genuinely recovered.
What keeps coming back.
When this started, and what was supposed to end it.
What you would say to somebody else living like this.

Take this to Ask Mark

You have done the exercise. Now look again at what it found.

This looks at what you found and helps you understand it. It is not another exercise to repeat.

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Body Evidence Check

TAIU

A week of plain observation before any conclusion.

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Further thinking

The Burnout Challenge
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Long Working Hours and Risk of Coronary Heart Disease and Stroke
Mika Kivimäki and colleagues
Why We Sleep
Matthew Walker

See the thinking ↓

Book

The Burnout Challenge

Christina Maslach and Michael P. Leiter

Forty years of research arguing that burnout is a mismatch between a person and the conditions they work in, not a deficiency in the person. Worth the time if you are about to redesign your entire life on the strength of feeling depleted. The two are easy to confuse. The remedies are not remotely the same.

Article

Long Working Hours and Risk of Coronary Heart Disease and Stroke

Mika Kivimäki and colleagues

A meta analysis across more than half a million people. It puts a number on something usually discussed as a feeling.

Book

Why We Sleep

Matthew Walker

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Four Thousand Weeks

Oliver Burkeman

The title comes from a simple observation. An average human life is surprisingly short when expressed in weeks. Burkeman challenges the idea that becoming more productive will eventually create enough time for everything. It won't.