Where to start looking
Feeling lost in the middle of your life
The structure that organised the last twenty years has quietly finished.
You are old enough to see how long things take and young enough to have to decide.
Nobody is asking you what you want next.
The plan ran out rather than failed
Most people are carried through early adulthood by a sequence somebody else designed: qualify, get established, build the thing, raise the children. It ends without ceremony. What follows is the first stretch where the direction is genuinely yours to set, and that is disorienting whether or not anything is wrong.
Time starts behaving differently
At some point the arithmetic changes from how much there is to how much is left. That shift alone produces most of what gets called a midlife crisis, and it is a reasonable response to accurate information.
Lost is not the same as wrong
It is possible to have built a good life and still not know what the next part is for. Those two facts do not contradict each other.
What this usually connects to
- What was organising your time before, and what has replaced it.
- Which commitments are current and which are historic.
A question worth sitting with
- What would you like the next ten years to have contained?
The session works out which stage you are actually in, which changes the question.
What stage am I in?It is a conversation, not a questionnaire. You can stop at any point, and finishing it does not mean anything has to change.
If the question turns out to be a different one