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Tool 76 · Develop yourself
What do you want to leave behind, and how much of it can start now?
Legacy is not a monument. It is what continues.
A guided 16 to 20 minute conversation using ChatGPT. Free, no account, nothing to sign up to.
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Copy
Take the TAIU prompt.
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Paste
Open ChatGPT.
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Talk
One question at a time.
Copies the TAIU prompt. Paste it into ChatGPT.
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Who is it actually for?
Most of it can start this year.
You are already leaving something behind.
What you'll explore
- 01The intention
- 02Who it is for
- 03The evidence
- 04The start
A note from Mark
I don't think legacy is about monuments or money.
It's the things that continue. What people learned from you. What you built that still works. How people were treated.
Most of it isn't waiting for the end of a life. It's already happening or it isn't.
So the useful question is what you're already leaving, and whether that's what you meant.
What you'll get
You won't finish with a personality type.You'll leave with answers you can actually test.
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The intention
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The evidence
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The gap
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What starts now
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- 01What you want to leave behind
- 02Who it is for
- 03What you are already leaving
- 04The gap
- 05What would have to change
- 06What can only happen later
- 07What could start this year
- 08The rival reading
- 09What deserves protecting
- 10Where this goes next
What now?
01 · Save it
What you want to leave behind.
02 · Test it
Tell the person it is for that you have been thinking about it.
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What I would do
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Name the person or group it is for.
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Look at how you already spend attention and money.
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Write the gap down in one sentence.
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Separate what can only happen later from what can start now.
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Begin one thing this year rather than planning all of it.
Test it
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Who is it for?
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What are you already leaving?
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What could start this year?
The alternative
The usual reading is that legacy is something built later, when there is more time or more money. Often the evidence shows it has already started, in how somebody treats people and what they keep giving attention to. The reverse also happens. Somebody talks warmly about what they want to leave and their week contains none of it, and the intention is a comfort rather than a plan.
Think about this
- What you want to leave behind.
- Who it is actually for.
- What you are already leaving, on the evidence.
- Where the gap sits.
- What could start this year.
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The Life Cycle Completed
Erik H. Erikson and Joan M. Erikson
Best for the tension between contributing and standing still in adult life.
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Further thinking
The Generative Society
Dan McAdams and Ed de St Aubin
The Life Cycle Completed
Erik H. Erikson and Joan M. Erikson
Being Mortal
Atul Gawande
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The Generative Society
Dan McAdams and Ed de St Aubin
McAdams has spent a career on generativity, the concern for establishing and guiding the next generation. His work shows it is not confined to parents and not confined to later life, and that people who have it tend to tell a particular kind of story about themselves. Useful for locating contribution you already make and have never counted.
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The Life Cycle Completed
Erik H. Erikson and Joan M. Erikson
Erikson set out adult life as a sequence of tensions rather than a plateau, with the pull between generativity and stagnation sitting through the middle decades. The stage model is tied to a mid twentieth century life course, so read it as a frame rather than a timetable, but it remains the clearest account of why what continues after us starts to matter long before the end of a life.
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Being Mortal
Atul Gawande
Gawande on what people actually want at the end of life, which is usually not what their families are organising for them. Difficult and clarifying.
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Give and Take
Adam Grant
Grant's finding that givers occupy both the top and the bottom of most performance distributions is the practical heart of this. What separates them is not generosity but whether the giving is bounded. If you have ever concluded that you should do more while quietly running out of road, read this before you add anything.
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The Top Five Regrets of the Dying
Bronnie Ware
A palliative nurse's account of what people said at the end, and the first regret on her list is having lived the life expected of them rather than the one they wanted. Treat it as testimony rather than evidence: it is a small, self-selected sample and it reads warmer than the research does. It earns its place because it is specific about the shape of a suppressed want, which the studies are not.