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Tool 75 · Develop yourself

What future are you quietly organising your life around?

Everybody is preparing for something. Most people have not said what.

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A guided 18 to 22 minute conversation using ChatGPT. Free, no account, nothing to sign up to.

  1. 01

    Copy

    Take the TAIU prompt.

  2. 02

    Paste

    Open ChatGPT.

  3. 03

    Talk

    One question at a time.

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What future are your decisions already assuming?

Say the assumption out loud and it becomes testable.

Preparing hard is not the same as being ready.

What you'll explore

  1. 01The assumption
  2. 02The evidence
  3. 03What would make it wrong
  4. 04Control

A note from Mark

Mark Eve, founder of TAIU

Whether we say it out loud or not, most of us are preparing for something.

A career shape. A financial position. A family structure. A version of the world.

Some of those assumptions are worth keeping. Some were inherited and never checked.

The useful move is to say what you're assuming, then look at what you're already doing about it.

What you'll get

You won't finish with a personality type.You'll leave with answers you can actually test.

  1. 01

    The assumption

  2. 02

    What it costs

  3. 03

    What you control

  4. 04

    One adjustment

  5. +

    Your TAIU handover — a portable summary of everything the conversation established.

See everything included ↓
  • 01The future you are assuming
  • 02What you are organising around it
  • 03Where that assumption came from
  • 04What would make it wrong
  • 05What you are not preparing for
  • 06What is actually in your control
  • 07Where preparation has become avoidance of the present
  • 08The rival reading
  • 09What deserves protecting
  • 10What deserves adjusting
  • 11Where this goes next

What now?

  1. 01 · Save it

    The future you are assuming.

  2. 02 · Test it

    Say the assumed future out loud to somebody who knows you well.

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What I would do

  1. 01

    Write the assumed future down in one plain sentence.

  2. 02

    List what you are already organising around it.

  3. 03

    Name one thing that would make it wrong.

  4. 04

    Separate what you control from what you do not.

  5. 05

    Make one adjustment rather than a new plan.

Test it

  1. 01

    What future are you assuming?

  2. 02

    What would make it wrong?

  3. 03

    What are you not preparing for?

The alternative

The usual reading is that preparing more is always sensible. Sometimes the preparation is precise and the life around it has quietly narrowed to fund a version of the future nobody has checked. The reverse also happens. Somebody dismisses planning as anxiety, and the evidence shows they are exposed in a way that a small adjustment would fix.

Think about this

  • What future your decisions assume.
  • What you are organising your life around now.
  • Where the assumption came from.
  • What would have to happen for it to be wrong.
  • What you are not preparing for.

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