Where to start looking
I hate my job and I do not know what else I would do
The dread starts on Sunday, and it is specific enough to have a time.
When people ask what you would rather do, you have nothing to say, and the silence embarrasses you.
You are good at this. That is part of the problem.
Not knowing the alternative does not make the feeling wrong
It is possible to be sure that something is unbearable and to have no idea what would be bearable instead. Those are two separate pieces of knowledge and they arrive at different speeds. Waiting for the second before you take the first seriously usually costs years.
Competence can look like a trap from the inside
The better you are at something, the more it pays and the harder it becomes to leave. Nobody designed this. It just accumulates. What it produces is a person who is well regarded and quietly done.
Hate often points at a part rather than the whole
The commute, the meetings, the manager, the pretending. If it is one part, it is worth knowing which. If it is genuinely all of it, that is worth knowing too, and it changes what is worth trying.
What this usually connects to
- What you were like at work before this, and when that changed.
- Whether you have ever done work you did not hate, and what was different about it.
A question worth sitting with
- If somebody removed one part of this job tomorrow, which part would you choose?
- What are you good at that you would not choose to do again?
The session works from what fits you now rather than from a list of careers.
What kind of work fits me nowIt is a conversation, not a questionnaire. You can stop at any point, and finishing it does not mean anything has to change.
If the question turns out to be a different one